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  When Your Child is 6 to 12 John M. Drescher  


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[When Your Child is 6 to 12] This little book discusses a most intriguing time of childhood called middle childhood -- those years when a child is ages six to twelve. We could call this period "the missing age of childhood," because these years are too seldom researched or written about. Yet these are prime years for particular preparation for adolescence and adulthood. Here is the great age of imitation when the child wants so much to be like parents and others whom the child admires, when the child will go to almost any extent to be like those who are the child's heroes. Children at this age seek to excel in areas for which they have received compliments and try to please persons whom they admire.

While all stages of child development are significant, middle childhood is especially crucial in the development of the inner life, which prepares the child for the rest of life. Here the foundations are laid for the teen years. And since the middle years pass so rapidly and with relative ease because the child loves to please, parents are inclined to miss the nurturing and preparation so essential during the years six through twelve.

The author gives primary emphasis to children's moral and emotional development. He touches very little on their physical development.

Children have a primary need to be loved by their parents. But, in child-rearing, love is not the only prerequisite for parenthood. Understanding is a second great requirement. The child needs a love which carries a special kind of insight into the child's world, which feeds the child's spirit. This love should give the child the inner strength to build firm and healthy concepts about self and about life itself. In addition, the child needs the kind of moral guidance which gives the child a sense of responsibility and reverence, in order to make right decisions and to respect other people.

Table of Contents

1. Parents' Last Great Opportunity
      Holding Your Child
      Spending Time With Your Child
      Instilling Values
      Reading to Your Child
      Teaching the Facts of Sex

2. Characteristics of Middle Childhood
      A Latency Period
      The Need for Affection
      The Child's Emotional Growth
      The Need for Encouragement
      Active and Noisy
      A Sense of Industry and Competence
      The Smart Age
      The Need to Belong
      The Need to Discuss Ideas and Do Things Together
      A Love of Adventure
      The Need for Rules

3. Guided by Imitation
      The Age of Imitation
      The Power of Example
      Model, Don't Order
      A Sense of Selfhood

4. Development of the Conscience
      Conscience Takes Shape
      Developing a Strong Conscience
      What About Rules Now?
      Proper Motivation for Obedience
      The Goal
      Spiritual Dimensions
      Three Parables

5. Development of Dependability
      Encourage the Child's Own Resourcefulness
      Trust with Small Projects Early
      Catching Their Parents' Spirit
      Point Out a Child's Dependability
      Regular Chores
      Shared Experiences
      Beware of Unreasonable Demands
      Organized Groups Can Help
      The Place of Praise
      Give the Child a Choice

6. The Demise of Childhood
      Let Children Be Children
      Unreal and Hurtful
      Pressure at Other Places
      Why All the Pressure?
      Reaching for a Remedy
      Examine Family Values
We've been overrun with child-rearing manuals for infants. We've been swamped with advice for relating to teens. But little has been offered to parents whose children are in middle childhood!

These are, observes Drescher, years of primarily happy companionship between children and parents. No longer as dependent as a preschooler and not yet as independent as a teenager, the child between ages 6 and 12 is a malleable being, inclined to imitate his or her parents, looking for the safety of parental love.

The relative ease of this age may lead parents to believe that their job as parents is nearly done. Not so, asserts Drescher. "While all stages of child development are significant, middle childhood is especially crucial in the development of the inner life which prepares the child for the rest of life."

Drescher's book is a call to enjoy these years, but to not mistake their importance by neglecting the child who seems happy and content. Drescher inspires and never intimidates. He delivers his advice with compassion and care.

96 pages. Paperback. Good Books

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